There's actually a good reason people never start or finish the books they’ve been wanting to write about their lives and careers. Authors don't want to tell painful stories about their past in a shaming, blaming, or helpless manner.
They want their books to display a level of forgiveness, and if not forgiveness, then at least acceptance and understanding of the bigger picture at play. To soften the edges of the story, we often examine the backstory and current environment of the tormentor, oppressor, or perpetrator.
Say you want to talk about an abusive parent. We could point back to their upbringing or generation. We might mention addiction, mental illness, domestic violence, or trauma. This gives the reader context and allows them to place themselves into the story for deeper connection.
On the flip side, when a story is presented like a “retaliation piece” with intent to do harm, the reader will likely fixate on the argument and bypass a chance for self-reflection. And down the line, the author will often regret how they presented the story. Having found some forgiveness, they wish the story could have been told from a place of healing.
We’re too close to our lives to see our stories objectively. That’s why ghostwriters, book coaches, and editors are invited to help authors deliver a message with insight, empathy, and closure. Give your book a chance to put its best face forward. Give your readers a chance to appreciate what you have to say.
Remember I’m here for you every week for Book Talk Tuesday. No matter where you are in the book creation process, our free 30-minute chat will help you breathe life into this precious book project of yours.